I am still friends with all these people and I am always interested in hearing how their life went. I love to see what life has given them.
However, very often I find myself in a situation where I have given tips to a person and shown a working path, but that person then walks out of my house and starts ignoring it. I wonder why. I don't understand that need of uniqueness.
I want to be my own boss! I want to show the world how big I am!
I can do it on my own! I don't need any help!
I admit here in front of everybody, now and forever:
I, Pedro Goncalves, need help. I search for help, and I accept help forever.
If I have leaks in a certain aspect of my life and I search for help from someone who is better than me or/and has more experience than me, I will do exactly as he taught me. I will ignore my own ideas and habits until I fully understand the way my new teacher taught me and I will change or alter the given advice once it worked for at least 3 months.
It is funny sometimes. People reach out to me for help and when they get the help and see that it works, they start changing the system. Because they don't think it matters much. Altho it is fact that following a working path is the way to go. Why change a working way?
- Because I want to improve -
In Poker very often people want to get coached and start winning immediatly. I am sure if you coached people already you also experienced this phenomenon. But after some time they start loosing money and blame it to variance or " the others play terrible and hit ALWAYS".
My search for reasons for why people do this in the end come down to this:
We think we are smarter than we are. We don't want to accept the fact that we suck at lots of things in life. I mean, who wants to admit to his wife that he sucks at managing the money? Who wants that?
Who wants their friends to know that they can't afford to go to the movies? No one wants that! So we lie. We lie to others and to ourselves.
Constantly. We wakeup in the morning feeling like a little piece of shit. We take breakfast alone, and hate it. If we have a person to take breakfast with. Sometimes we lie and do as if we are ok, but most of the times we say shit like: I am not awake yet!
One thing I started to say in 2013 to all my friends, students and family:
We are all idiots! We truly are. I searched for help so many times before 2013 and I ignored it. ALWAYS. Think about yourself. How often in life did you ask for advice from someone, so that in the end you could ignore it and do what you chose to do before you asked?
In October 2013 I contacted Andrew Brokos and asked for coaching. But before that I looked myself in the eyes infront of the mirror and said:
Shut the fuck up you idiot and listen to what that man has to say. AND follow it.
The moment you start doubting it and want to put your ideas into his concepts you shoot yourself in the head!
From that point on I started winning in Mtts. I cashed constantly. It was the start of a new life.
With help of friends and people who are way smarter than me we launched a new site: www.changethewhy,com where we launched a video series for 52 weeks so we could guide you thru a full year. Be constantly in contact with you. Force you to get better.
We don't accept you to give up.
I already know, that people will start with our program, follow it for 1-2 months, earn more money, read more books, save more money, do all the things that allow you a rich and fullfilled life. But after some time the old habits will kick in. Because we forget about one last and most important thing:
We suck! Not the system. We need to constantly remind ourselves to follow the working system.
In the end all that matters is YOU. I want you to feel good, to live an amazing life. I don't want you to suffer in avoidable situations.
But you decide if you want to do the things you did already and pray for different results or change and get new results that might lead to the ones you actually want.
Your friend,
Pedro Goncalves
